Parenting Free Course 007

Christian Parenting, Free Course Lesson 007

TYPES OF PUNISHMENTS PARENTS GIVE CHILDREN

A severe punishment with continued threats. This type of punishment creates hatred between parents and the child. Parents should avoid making children think of them as their enemies. Punishments are given for the sake of redemptive discipline.

A small and reasonably punishment should be administered. When a punishment it is precisely carried out is effective. The punishment becomes effective because it is carried as it has been promised and its reasonability.

DURATION IN THE ADMINISTRATION OF THE PUNISHMENT

What are the disadvantages of the delayed punishment which is expected to be administered to misbehavior of the child? This type of punishment is not effective. King says “Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil” (Eccle. 8:11 KJV).

However, some punishments can be delayed if the father is not around. As soon as he arrives the mother should tell him of the misbehavior which was conducted by the child. Telling the father makes the child aware the serious nature of the misbehavior.

When there is a necessary of discipline to be carried out, it should be administered promptly to the culprit. When both parents are at home when the misbehavior has been done, they should carry their punishment on their as soon as they can.

THE UNFULFILLED PUNISHMENT

Most of the women are good in carrying out threats to their children when they have done something wrong. They do not fulfill the intended threats of punishments. Unfulfilled threats produce indifference to the children which causes their respect to their mothers to decline. This further prepares the mother to have unendless trouble and the annoying which she might have rid oneself of it.

CHARACTER MODIFICATION IN THE CHILD

After disciplining the child, the parent has one duty to fulfill. He should ask the child to kneel together with him and pray to God by asking Him for the forgiveness that he has broken a rule. The parent should also pray for the child and thanking God for the forgiveness given to the child.

There is a difference between forgiveness and the discipline. Discipline controls the outward behavior. It creates an atmosphere where the inner side of the child would be modified by the Spirit. Forgiveness which is done by the child as he asks God to forgive him invites the power of God which transforms the inner soul of the child. Forgiveness does not mean to abandon the punishment to misbehavior.

AUTHOR: Pastor Lysant Molly Langwell Tembo

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5 thoughts on “Parenting Free Course 007

  1. When rules are given to children and the whole familie took part as was suggested, the mother should not wait until the father is home to carry out the punishment. Some times becouse of this children do not respect the mother. both parents chould be respected

  2. Thought the basics in this course were good as an introduction. Most people are completely unprepared for the vitally important job of raising the next generation!
    However, the articles need proof-reading, as it seems the author’s first language is not English, and this has resulted in some confusing sentences.

  3. Synopsis:
    Parents are teachers that God has assigned to children (Prov. 22:6: Duet. 4:6-9; Eph. 6:1-4).

    Parents should be aware that teachers cannot fill their (parents) gaps in parenting.

    Proverbs (29:15) says “a child left to himself brings shame to his mother”

    The church can also help children too, by training them in a variety of ways to fill the gaps of manhood and womanhood.

    Parenting is a great challenge that parents face in the modern generation. This was also a challenge to some biblical characters. Some of these Bible characters had serious problems with the training of their children. The first example was Aaron whose sons Nadab and Abihu brought strange fire to the sanctuary which kindled God’s anger and He killed them (Levi. 10:1-11; Num. 3:2-4; 26:60-61). Eli, the priest at Shilo is another very good example of failing to parent his children in the Lord. His children brought a reproach to the priestly ministry. He was afraid to confront his sons. He confronted them at a very late stage and his confrontation was not effective to reform them (1 Sam. 2:12-13).
    Samuel himself had failed to instruct his children, Joel and Abijah, in the way of the Lord. King David, prophet and loved by God (1Sam 3:14, 2 Sam 23:2) left his children on their own to do whatever pleased them (1 Kings 1:6). David dealt with the murderous son, Absalom by ordering Absalom to return to his house but he must not see his face anymore (2 Sam. 14:24), after two years of which he rebelled.

    Imitation occurs; Scripture say, “As is the mother, so is her daughter” (Ezek. 16:44). Isaac told a lie told king Abimelech of Gerar that Rebekah was his sister. He told a lie because he was afraid that he would be killed (Gen. 26:7). This was a repetition of the lie of his father Abraham (Gen. 20:2). The last kings of Judah did evil according to their fathers (2 Kings 23:31-32; 36-37; 24:9). Rehoboam in the Bible, under peer pressure, takes the advice of the fellow young men and discarded the advice of the elders (1 Kings 12:8).

    Political leaders are often a source. King Jeroboam of Israel was the hero of many kings. He established the idol worship. He made Israel to sin against God (2 Kings 13:11). He made the golden calf worship of Dan and Bethel. He was imitated by the other kings who later followed him in Israel such as Jehoahaz, Joash, Jeroboan 11 etc (2 Kings 13:2-3, 11; 14:23). He was imitated by the nation of Israel (2 Kings 13:6).

    While a blessing, TV and Internet may also be abused and should be monitored by parents.

    Types of parenting styles which have been categorized: authoritative parent, permissive parent, authoritarian parent, autocratic parent, negligent parent

    God says, “This book of the law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall have good success”( Josh. 1:8).

    Train our children in Lord (Eph. 6:4)

    The Bible commands parents to teach their children when they are at home, when they walk with them on the way, when they wake up from sleep and when they go to sleep. Parents should use charts which should be nailed at the doorposts, inside the house to help children capture some biblical lessons which should not be forgotten by them (Duet. 11:19-20).

    The parent should be able to balance between love and authority, tough and tender.

    Parents should never disagree in the presence of their children. No parent should take sides with the child. It is dangerous to inform her that the other parent is selfish, unreasonable, cruel etc.

    Nothing should take the place of the divine word in your dealing with the child (Ps. 119:9-11).

    Do not change the punishment forecast, and make it reasonable. There are many mechanisms, he Bible advises on a rod (Prov. 13:24). The parent should immediately disapprove of bad behavior. Do not tolerate unacceptable behavior.

    Confront the child face to face, closely, looking into his eyes straight, changing the volume of your words.

    Reward and reinforce positive, good behavior.

    Teach the child of the presence of the two major forces that oppose each other in the world:God and the devil

    Teach your child how to build his faith. Teach one to select good Christian friends.

    God’s fear is the beginning of wisdom (Prov. 9:10). Jesus grew up in wisdom and he demonstrated this by the ability to answer the questions of Rabbis at the age of 12 in the Temple.

    Rules set limits of what should be done or not done.

    Punishments are given for the sake of redemptive discipline and should avoid building hatred or animosity.

    Discipline controls the outward behavior. It creates an atmosphere where the inner side of the child would be modified by the Spirit. Forgiveness which is done by the child as he asks God to forgive him invites the power of God which transforms the inner soul of the child.

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