Christian Parenting, Free Course Lesson 007
TYPES OF PUNISHMENTS PARENTS GIVE CHILDREN
A severe punishment with continued threats. This type of punishment creates hatred between parents and the child. Parents should avoid making children think of them as their enemies. Punishments are given for the sake of redemptive discipline.
A small and reasonably punishment should be administered. When a punishment it is precisely carried out is effective. The punishment becomes effective because it is carried as it has been promised and its reasonability.
DURATION IN THE ADMINISTRATION OF THE PUNISHMENT
What are the disadvantages of the delayed punishment which is expected to be administered to misbehavior of the child? This type of punishment is not effective. King says “Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil” (Eccle. 8:11 KJV).
However, some punishments can be delayed if the father is not around. As soon as he arrives the mother should tell him of the misbehavior which was conducted by the child. Telling the father makes the child aware the serious nature of the misbehavior.
When there is a necessary of discipline to be carried out, it should be administered promptly to the culprit. When both parents are at home when the misbehavior has been done, they should carry their punishment on their as soon as they can.
THE UNFULFILLED PUNISHMENT
Most of the women are good in carrying out threats to their children when they have done something wrong. They do not fulfill the intended threats of punishments. Unfulfilled threats produce indifference to the children which causes their respect to their mothers to decline. This further prepares the mother to have unendless trouble and the annoying which she might have rid oneself of it.
CHARACTER MODIFICATION IN THE CHILD
After disciplining the child, the parent has one duty to fulfill. He should ask the child to kneel together with him and pray to God by asking Him for the forgiveness that he has broken a rule. The parent should also pray for the child and thanking God for the forgiveness given to the child.
There is a difference between forgiveness and the discipline. Discipline controls the outward behavior. It creates an atmosphere where the inner side of the child would be modified by the Spirit. Forgiveness which is done by the child as he asks God to forgive him invites the power of God which transforms the inner soul of the child. Forgiveness does not mean to abandon the punishment to misbehavior.
AUTHOR: Pastor Lysant Molly Langwell Tembo